Book summary of The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Everyone will always have an emotional need for love, from childhood all the way through adulthood.
The infatuated and honeymoon love eventually runs out for all couples, no matter what. Then reality sets in and couples start to feel their relationship breakdown. They miss out on the next stage of their love, which is a choice, a way of thinking, and a discipline to love.
Some couples love each other, but they each don’t feel loved because they’re not communicating their love in the right way (language).
♥ Love Language 1 — Words of Affirmation. Simple statements like, “You are so funny,” “You look stunning tonight,” or, “Your green eyes are gorgeous.”
♥ Love Language 2 — Quality Time. This means to give your full, 100%, undivided attention on the other person and talk to them. Doesn’t fill someone’s love tank if you’re multi-tasking on your phone or watching tv.
♥ Love Language 3 — Receiving Gifts. Some people are naturally tuned to appreciate symbols of love more than anything else. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful.
♥ Love Language 4 — Acts of Service. This comes down to doing the things your spouse or significant other would want you to do. By serving them in whatever capacity, they will feel super loved.
♥ Love Language 5 — Physical Touch. Touching and loving on some people will give them more security and feelings of love in the relationship than anything else you can do for them. Do random touches throughout the day, like holding their hand or a big hug, and they’ll love it.
Discovering your significant other’s love language is key to a successful relationship — and you need to know yours too, so you can relay the information to them.
Love is a daily choice, not always a feeling. Loving feelings sometimes aren’t there, but you can still decide to be loving. Keep practicing it, even when it’s uncomfortable or doesn’t feel natural.
Your fundamental needs are for security, self-worth, and significance, which love affects all three. Life’s better when you give and receive love.
Author is mainly talking about romantic relationships, but I believe these love languages are important in all of your relationships.
For example, if you visit your mom/sister who appreciates kind words more than anything else, shower her with praise. Tell her how great of a cook she is. Bring up an old memory when she saved the day. She’ll feel amazing all because of your words of encouragement, which won’t take much effort.
A huge part of success is having healthy relationships around you. Because you have to admit that success doesn’t mean as much if you have no one to share it with.
So pay close attention to how you can love your significant other, and the people around you, better. You’ll feel remarkably happier as a byproduct of making others happy.
Thanks for reading. I wish you have a happy reading.
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